Sick and tired of being sick and tired 😡

Oct 10, 2018

Spread the love, forward to a friend!

#WednesdayWisdom

"everything i wish to be is nestled within me. with self-trust, faith, and resilience my roots will run deep. i will grow. i will flourish. i will become." — alex elle

Morning Musings

It's been a long week, month, year, LIFE to be a woman.

Yesterday on Twitter, I saw two different women share accounts about feeling unsafe around men they didn't know just minutes apart.

And then it happened to me as I was walking home from the train. Now, I don't wear my headphones while walking around at night because safety. Not doing so, however, seems to be an open invitation for street harassment.

As I passed the local pizza shop, I saw two men talking to one another and knew without a shadow of a doubt that they would say something to me. And, of course, this happened to be the night I was wearing my "Nasty Women Unite" shirt ... so again with the apparent invitation (please note my sarcasm here).

"Hey beautiful, why aren't you smiling?"

"What are you so upset about it's a lovely day."

"Let me see you smile."

"Heyyy, nasty woman."

"Can we go to the movies?"

What did I want to do? Turn around, flip them off and curse them to the high heavens. What did I do instead? Nothing. I kept walking, keys in hand and prayed to God they wouldn't follow me.

And when I got home, I cried tears of anger. Anger because I could not respond even though I wanted to due to fear of retaliation. Women have literally lost their lives for saying "no" and rejecting men's unwanted advances.

And then tears of sadness. Because these people I did not know and hopefully will never see again made me feel so unsafe and so vulnerable and there was nothing I could do about it.

I pride myself on being a strong, badass woman, but in that moment, I had to choose my personal safety over standing up for myself. And that's the part that stung the most.

It's got to stop. And I don't know when it'll stop, but I do know that women, especially Black women and every marginalized woman out there, deserves more than this country has given us so far.

Love,
L'Oreal

IRL

Oct. 21: #SpeakTruth Summit

Links I Love

My Latest Obsession

By now, y'all know that I'm a fairly light sleeper and, as I mentioned last week, I can hear my upstairs neighbor walking around and it wakes me up in the middle of the night.

Well, not any more! I've known about the cult following of the Marpac Dohm Classic White Noise Machine for some time, but had never tried it myself ... until now. It's only been night two sleeping with the machine and I can't tell if it's pure exhaustion, or it's actually working, but I haven't slept so well since we moved into our new place.

Sure, it may cost $50, but a nice of restful sleep is priceless! And yes, I know it looks like a little Stormtrooper, but trust me, this sh*t works.

Now Hiring

Chief Executive Officer for RefuSHE
Director of Community Strategy for Black Chicago Tomorrow
Event Manager for Richmond Times-Dispatch
Community Manager for Greater Good Studio
Graphic Designer for Strive Together
California Education Reporter, Sacramento for POLITICO
Vice President, Creative Director for Girl Scouts of the USA
Senior Health and Food Editor for Well + Good

Classifieds

Do you have a personal project you've been dying to share with the world? Perhaps you're looking to promote your #SideHustle or small business? Whatever the case, you can do so here and reach more than 8,000 smart, ambitious and engaged millennial women. Learn more about LT in the City Classifieds here.

Well, that's all folks. I hope you enjoyed this edition of LT in the City Weekly! Be sure to follow me on the Interwebs using the buttons below or simply click "reply" to tell me what you think. Thanks a bunches!