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"Minding my business is my favorite form of self-care." — Qai Qai
Morning Musings
As a perpetual people-pleaser, it's almost like the word "no" isn't in my vocabulary. I'm so quick to say "yes" to every ask, every request or demand on my time that I often forget "no" is even an option.
So last week when an editor asked me about writing an article due this past Monday, my immediate inclination was to say "yes." It's not that big of a deal, I rationed. At this point in my career, I can write 750-1,000 words in my sleep.
But, according to my husband, Jeff, I was missing the bigger point. "Are you ever not working?" he asked. As I was in the middle of drafting copy for a workshop (details below!), working on this here newsletter and responding to emails all before our weekend trip to Dallas, I thought, "maybe he has a point."
Was I seriously about to crank out an article on top of my already too long to-do list? Yes, yes I was. Because, for some reason, putting other people and their needs/wants/desires above my own has become second nature.
Maybe it's because I not-so-secretly suffer from scarcity mindset and I think if I'm not doing it, someone else will get the opportunity and/or I'll be overlooked for other opportunities? Or it could be that I've somehow conditioned myself to believe that my self worth is tied to how much I put out into the world?
Y'all, I have issues. And I'm working through them in therapy. But I, L'Oreal Thompson Payton, am a bona fide workaholic. And I don't know how not to be this way, but I'm learning. Slowly, but surely, I'm learning.
Thank you, Jeff, for pushing me. I love you.
Love,
L'Oreal
Women @ Work
Hey, y'all! It's time for another edition of Women @ Work. The first Wednesday of every month, I'll be introducing you to a dope woman you should know. This month's feature is Jessica Lauren of No Real Jewelry. Learn all about this blogger, podcast host and fellow Scorpio (whoop whoop) over on the blog.
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March 20: Flower Girls Meet (We'll be talking ALL about impostor syndrome with my friend Vanessa Flowers!)
March 25: A Love Letter to Myself (As the title suggests, I'll be reading a love letter to myself -- eek! Use the code HURRY for 15% off your ticket)
April 2: Ladies, Get Paid! (Okay, so this one isn't *technically* IRL, but I'm hosting my very first webinar and it's all about getting PAID!! Did I mention it's FREE?)
Links I Love (WHM Edition)
Editor's Note: In honor of Women's History Month, I'll be sharing articles written by and/or about Black women.
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