"Dark-skinned, nappy-headed b*tch"
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"Women who love themselves love other women." — Maryam Hasnaa
Morning Musings
Last Thursday was a tale of two catcalls. While boarding the train to work, a CTA employee told me to "have a nice day, beautiful." Harmless enough, I thought, in the grand scheme of things.
Then, once at work, I started reading an article about intersectionality and silencing women in preparation for my team's monthly Diversity, Equity & Inclusion meeting (an article that interestingly enough included no mention of Black feminist scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw, the woman who'd coined the term intersectionality in 1989).
I could feel my blood start to boil as each passing paragraph continued to not credit Crenshaw's work, a regular occurrence in "mainstream" feminism. It wasn't the first time and it wouldn't be the last.

I was livid and knew I needed to take a walk to get some fresh air lest I lash out on unsuspecting coworkers and become the resident "angry Black woman."
I grabbed my phone and headed out to the nearby farmers market. While there, I enjoyed the sunshine and overall hustle and bustle of downtown Chicago on a perfect summer day -- not too hot, not too humid. I got a delicious salted caramel peach pie from Justice of the Pies, a Black woman-owned pie shop, and continued about my merry way. Until this random guy sidled up to me. Here we go, I thought...
"Excuse me, miss..."
I quickened my pace, but he matched my stride, so I started to panic.
"Can I talk to you for a minute..."
I continued walking, turned my head slightly and said, "No, thank you, I'm not interested."
"You dark-skinned, nappy-headed bitch, I knew you were going to be like that."
At this point, I stopped walking and internally debated for a nanosecond whether I should respond because Black women are sometimes injured (or worse, killed) after rejecting unwanted advances. But, being my mother's daughter, I couldn't help myself and told him to [bleep] off.
He mumbled something else under his breath and I spun around, continuing my walk to the office. I was momentarily shaken -- wondering what could have been. Scolding myself because Auntie Michelle told us to go high when they go low, but I gave in...and for what? Not only that, but what if he had a weapon? Was "sticking up for myself" really worth it?
It pisses me off that this a reality and even everyday occurrence for women at large, but particularly Black women. I shouldn't have to decide between standing up for myself and my life. We really need to a better job of protecting Black women. We deserve better.
Love,
L'Oreal
Links I Love
An in-depth look into why impostor syndrome (my favorite topic) is worse for women of color. What happens when white women co-opt Black history (again!). Why Unbothered is more than an mood for Black women, it's a way of life. The seven types of fears that block us ... and how you can overcome them (as it turns out, I'm a procrastinator, gotta love that perfectionist streak).
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By the time you read this newsletter, I'll be living my best life in Cuba with my husband, Jeff. I had the genius idea back in February to surprise him with a trip to celebrate his 35th birthday (which is today, btw) and here we are! Wife of the Year Award obviously goes to me.
But in preparation for our trip, I knew I wanted to try Supergoop's Unseen Sunscreen to see what the hype was about. At $16 for 1.7 ounces, it's definitely a splurge, but what I like about it is that a) it feels good going on (who knew I'd look forward to putting on sunscreen every morning?) and b) it doubles as a primer. Two-in-one beauty/skincare product? Sign me up!
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