#WednesdayWisdom
“i hope you remember that you’re worth more and that they know it. they just hope you never find out. that’s why we heal. to remember who we really are.” ~ Yasmine Cheyenne
Morning Musings
Watching Beyoncé lose Album of the Year to Harry Styles on Sunday was upsetting to me for a number of reasons. For starters, Renaissance was THEE album of the year (perhaps the decade?) for multiple reasons. Secondly, I’ve been Hive since Day One (and honestly before Day One, I’m talking back during the Destiny’s Child days, before there even was a BeyHive).
And lastly, but perhaps most of all, because Beyoncé’s loss—despite breaking the record earlier that evening for the most Grammy wins EVER—was a microcosm of what Black women face in this country day in and day out. This tweet said it best:
Followed by this one:
On the one hand, in a weird twisted way, it’s reassuring to know I’m in good company. As someone who has also been overlooked despite surpassing goals. As someone who has received a few flowers, but certainly not the full bouquet in certain circles. Author and entrepreneur Tiffany Dufu said it much more eloquently than I’m able to in the caption for this Instagram post:
“The challenge is that even in the midst of unprecedented achievement - whether it’s beating your sales target, being one of the rare Black women founders who has raised venture capital, graduating at the top of your class or winning the most Grammy awards in music history - sometimes our work is still not valued by decision makers.”
I feel that on a spiritual level. And I know I’m not the only one. To top it all off, Styles made a point to say that things like this don’t happen to “people like him.” I’m still not 100% sure what he meant by that, but I can say with certainty that these sort of things happen to mediocre white men (and women) all the time.
Yet somehow Queen Bey maintains big Michelle Obama energy by going high when the Grammys go low. But I, for one, am tired of Black women always having to take the higher road. Sometimes I want to go low right with them.
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SO DESERVES AOTY!!!!! I did highly enjoy Harry's House, especially this summer, but there is no question Bey deserves it. Stop making new/"extra" categories and give her the damn BIG ASS bouquet!