things I did instead of working during my summer sabbatical
because life is better when you're having fun with the ones you love
#WednesdayWisdom
“You’re not behind. Go at your own pace. All things in time.” ~ Nneka M. Okona
Morning Musings
Welp, as predicted I did not get to even half of my summer sabbatical to-do list … and I’m okay with it. No, really. Here’s a brief roundup of all the things I did for fun instead of doing work during my break:
Flew to Baltimore to celebrate my friend’s baby shower
Ran through the sprinkler with my dad and Violet while playing soccer
Ate crabs 🦀
Went to library story time at the planetarium with my parents and Violet
Ate (a lot of) ice cream 🍦
Saw Inside Out 2 with my sister (the first one is better, IMO)
Bought a Stanley Cup (don’t judge)
Enjoyed a Perfect Chicago Day with my friend Marissa, complete with lunch at Monteverde, ice cream at Jenni’s and a cookie (for me) from Levain Bakery
Chased after Violet at soccer
Went to the farmers market
Did the Lil’ Jon Peloton ride (WHAT?! YEAAA!)
Started watching season three of The Bear (and I wholeheartedly agree with this GQ writer that it should be a weekly series)
Went to a neighbor’s birthday party
Rode my bike to meet Pam for kombucha
Took a road trip to Ohio for the Fourth of July weekend
Met up with friends for dinner and more friends for brunch
Went on a date with Jeff
Watched Supacell with my mother-in-law (I thought it was going to be a romcom based on the clip Strong Black Lead shared on Instagram, but alas, I was wrong. Very wrong!)
Now that’s not to say it was all fun. There was the four-hour flight delay at BWI. The water rescue that took place at the same beach as the birthday party. And I managed to break my new website, fixed it, then broke it again (it was plan to unveil to you my new branding and so forth and so on, but … life happens).
A year ago not completing every single task on my wildly ambitious to-do list would’ve sent me into a spiral. I would’ve felt like a failure (even though I set myself up for failure with unrealistic expectations).
These days, I’m extending myself a lot more grace and compassion. I’m giving myself permission to enjoy life and soak up the little moments, because that is precisely what life is composed of—tiny, little pockets of joy. And I’m learning to savor them when they happen.
My business coach
named it so eloquently in her latest newsletter for about realigning priorities:This is what it looks like to have a life-first business: My work is at the bottom of the list. It still matters to me very much (it’s still a priority!) but when my business is thriving, it’s typically because the rest of the list of in order.
Life. First.
In the post, Jenni encourages readers to make their own list and, because we’re similar in many regards, my list is very similar to hers:
My faith (reading my devotionals religiously; carving out time to pray; attending church in person when we can)
Myself (my mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well-being; tending to my creativity; treating myself to a massage; spending quality time with myself)
My marriage (spending quality time together and having conversations that don’t resolve around work, household matters and/or childcare)
My daughter (making sure I spend quality, focused time with her; giving her my full attention; tending to her needs)
My village (spending quality time—whether in person or virtual—with my family of origin, extended family and friends who are like family)
My work (tending to the business at hand, but also carving out dedicated time to plan, evaluate and pivot, if need be)
My community (giving back to causes I care about; getting involved in local organizations; supporting local businesses, etc.)
For longer than I’d care to admit my priorities have been all out of sorts—with work often coming first; Violet coming next; and everything else pretty much falling to the wayside. I’m aiming to do a better job of keeping my priorities in check for the second half of the year.
Tell me what’s on your list of priorities in the comments!
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What a beautiful reflection, sis - so proud of you for living life to the fullest! Also, we need to hang before summer is over! xoxo
Watching you accomplish so much these past couple years – including and especially the ability to give yourself grace and prioritizing your personal, spiritual nourishment – has been so deeply moving my friend!!!
Thank you for the shout out, too! I so appreciate the support 🫶🏽